Reading for June 30

“We worked at a comfortable pace and rest before we get tired. To remind
ourselves, we check our level of energy before proceeding to our next
activity. We do not get ‘wound up’ in our work so we do not have to
unwind.” “W.A. Tools of Recovery,” Workaholics Anonymous

Pace, prioritizing and Perfectionism are words that any addict can use as
a focus for a spot inventory when life starts to feel like it is too much.
Prioritizing ensures a time for rest, work and play. When new activities are
added, something has to go; we don’t overextend ourselves. We can’t say
“yes” to everything. Under-scheduling allows ample time for each task, for
travel time and for relaxation, which means not pressuring others or getting
pressured. When we feel tense or off stride, we take a few deep breaths
to get grounded.
Perfectionism and impatience sidetrack sober, balanced living and they
are worth understanding. Do we ever forget we are human? Do we ever forget
to ask for help? Some of us are workaholics and all of us have workaholics
who impact our lives. Some of us are doubly blessed or double-losers,
depending on how you look at concurrent disorders. Imbalance in work can
lead to other addictions. There is no making up for lost time—that’s an
illusion. Impatience may be part of a chaotic life that kept things way too busy
for touchy-feely time. Sometimes we are rushing for arbitrary self-imposed
deadlines. What’s that about? If we don’t have time to do it right, how do we
always find time to do it over? If Perfectionism or impatience pesters us in
recovery or, worse yet, if we self-righteously wear our impatience or
Perfectionism as badges of honor, why not check in with someone about this?
What makes me susceptible to work imbalance may be avoidance; busy-busy is
a great place to hide in plain view.

Do I come from a chaotic or dysfunctional background?
Have I inherited naïve or Unrealistic expectations?
Is my pace good or am I impatient? Have I prioritized
my day and left time for spontaneity? Am I a perfectionist?
What does this tell me about my stage of recovery?

C., Joe. Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life: Finally, a daily reflection
book for nonbelievers, freethinkers and everyone!

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