Reading for May 15

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow; it empties today of its strength.” Corrie ten Boom (1892–1983)
How do we react when someone calls us on excessive Worry? Do we dig in our heels and declare that we are just
being responsible? Do we argue that a sense of impending doom now will mitigate future suffering? Today’s
Worry only sucks the energy and enjoyment out of the here and now. Planning isn’t Worrying; Worrying isn’t
planning. Planning relieves anxiety. We just can’t plan the outcome. It might be our struggle with control, or
the lack thereof, which is pouring gas on this fire of Worry. Are we overinvested in a certain outcome? All
the stress in the world won’t give us control over either the results of our efforts or the efforts of
others. In our addictive and/or codependent ways we were the consummate manipulators who wrote scripts for
everything and everyone to live by. If only everyone could save time and see it our way, wouldn’t everyone be
happier? The “one day at a time” mantra can lessen our propensity to resist being controlled as well as our
desire to be in control. If our efforts are focused on today’s tasks and what if thinking kicks in, we can
remember to think about our effort, not the outcome. If all else fails to free us from Worry, putting
ourselves in the service of others is a sure thing. When we give to others with pure intention it doesn’t
cost us energy—it replenishes our energy. With the outcome ball in someone else’s court we can hope for the
best without being obsessed. Yoga, deep breathing, Prayer or meditation are more ways people find peace from
regret for the past or dread of what tomorrow may bring.

Do I have a routine or system to help me when my thoughts are focused on what Richmond Walker referred to,
in Twenty-Four Hours A Day, as “those two awful eternities—yesterday and tomorrow”?

C., Joe. Beyond Belief: Agnostic Musings for 12 Step Life: Finally, a daily reflection
book for nonbelievers, freethinkers and everyone!

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